The Eighth and Final Square

with courage face the thing you fear so the pawn becomes the queen

No child chooses to be born. Why then do so many fundamentalist (emphasis on mental!) parents think their kids owe them? We were constantly reminded of how much we owed our parents. We owed them because they “put up” with us when we were young. We owed them because there were so many of us. We owed them because they fed and clothed us. We owed them because they paid for our music lessons. We owed them because we were […]

Posted by Phoenix On Nov - 20 - 2014 Add Comments READ FULL POST

There has been a lot of uproar in the survivors-of-abusive-homeschooling community over the post by Olivia Brodock titled “From A Homeschool Victim Who Obviously Survived“. There are many things to address, and I’m not going to do a dissection of that post, but I will mention a couple things. First off, the original post photo was one that was found on a post on the Homeschooler’s Anonymous website titled “When Homeschool Leaders Looked Away: The Old Schoolhouse Cover-Up“. The photo […]

Posted by Phoenix On Nov - 2 - 2014 6 Comments READ FULL POST

A friend of mine posted on her Facebook today that Megan and Grace Phelps-Roper (granddaughters of the infamous Fred Phelps) left the Westboro cult in November (and, of course, were shunned, as I was). I’m not sure of the exact date, but only that last Sunday was her first day in a different church. The news article brings back a lot of memories for me. After I read it, I started crying…I was in similar shoes, and it was really […]

Posted by Phoenix On Feb - 6 - 2013 5 Comments READ FULL POST

Oddly enough, I’ve recently found out that stepping back from the sphere of Christianity allows me to have a better grasp on the whole thing: I’m completely objective, I have no bias or leaning or anything else interfering with the way I view the Christian bible. I see things more clearly and in a new light than I did before. (I suppose here’s where the Christians tell me “If you see it so clearly, then you’ll know it’s right!” or, […]

Posted by Phoenix On Nov - 29 - 2011 15 Comments READ FULL POST

As I thought long and hard about that [her own health in this 20th pregnancy], I realized that there’s no greater love than this, that a man be willing to lay down his life, and I think as a mom and a parent, you’d be willing to do that for your child, even the child that’s not here yet. I would be willing to do that. Hold the “awwww’s”. Coming from the woman this did, it is possibly one of […]

Posted by Phoenix On Nov - 8 - 2011 15 Comments READ FULL POST

Have you ever wondered if there was more to the story of Mary than what is written in the Christian bible? I have. Especially after also becoming pregnant unexpectedly. I know, I know, it’s a common myth that you run that risk if you don’t use protection or birth control 100% of the time. (In reality, there are fertile times of the month, and non-fertile times of the month. Unfortunately, apparently my body isn’t that predictable!) When the angel spoke […]

Posted by Phoenix On Sep - 30 - 2011 13 Comments READ FULL POST

I’ve been reading through the book “Why Does He Do That?” (it’s a little difficult translating it to an abusive father, rather than an abusive spouse, but some of the principles are the same), and I came across this passage that completely refutes Debi Pearl and anyone else who says women should do whatever men want. An abused woman tends to pour precious energy into supporting her abusive partner and massaging his ego, hoping against hope that if he is […]

Posted by Phoenix On Sep - 5 - 2011 18 Comments READ FULL POST

So recently, Debi Pearl (of Created To Be His Helpmeet, Preparing To Be His Helpmeet, and

Posted by Phoenix On Sep - 1 - 2011 34 Comments READ FULL POST
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