The Eighth and Final Square

with courage face the thing you fear so the pawn becomes the queen

Dennis always said “kids are sponges”, which was the reason he needed to brainwash us into his religious fanaticism, so we wouldn’t soak up The World. Unfortunately, he had this huge double standard: on the one hand, “kids are sponges”, and on the other hand, “I must beat my kids into being good”. If there’s one thing I’ve thoroughly learned in the two years since I birthed Ari, it’s that the best way to raise a child is to set […]

Posted by Phoenix On Mar - 24 - 2014 Add Comments READ FULL POST
Us on our anniversary in 2012

Once upon a time, there was a girl who was lonely. She was kept in a tower of sorts, with minimal contact to the outside world, and was very unhappy: nobody in her tower took the time to understand her and love her for who she was; instead, they tried to make her into what they thought she should be so they would love her. One day, she was introduced to a man online, and they started talking. When the […]

Posted by Phoenix On Feb - 14 - 2014 Add Comments READ FULL POST

There are so many things I know now that I wish I knew when I was younger. A group I’m in wanted us to answer the question “What do you wish your 16-year-old self knew?”, and I’ve been thinking about writing a post along those lines anyway, so I just decided to do it now. What I Wish My Younger Self Knew I wish she knew everything wasn’t her fault. I wish she knew she didn’t have to be stuck […]

Posted by Phoenix On Oct - 15 - 2013 Add Comments READ FULL POST

I’m constantly amazed how well-behaved (and brilliant!) Ari is. My definition of “well-behaved” has probably changed since I was at my parents’, because I also believe she is a small child and will act like a small child, and she DOES have meltdowns (usually if she hasn’t had a nap or is hungry). Most of what she has learned has been just by example. She shares her food with us, because we share our food with her…not because we whacked […]

Posted by Phoenix On Sep - 23 - 2013 Add Comments READ FULL POST

Growing up, we were never considered rich, by any stretch of the imagination, but neither were we poor. We had food on the table, a roof over our heads, vehicles, toys, etc. When my dad lost his company, we thought then we were truly poor. We looked down on people who called themselves “poor” yet were fat. We judged anyone who had government assistance, and thought they were just lazy (and that it wasn’t the government’s job to take care […]

Posted by Phoenix On Apr - 19 - 2012 3 Comments READ FULL POST

I am proud of what I’ve sacrificed, And I am proud of what I’ve saved, In commitment to a greater good, Strength grows from splintered faith. I have a quote on my About Me page, and also on my Facebook profile…”I want to be me without apology.” I realized today that I am. Me. Without apology. I posted a post on Facebook which became much more controversial than I expected. Some people disagreed strongly, some people agreed, and some people […]

Posted by Phoenix On Oct - 4 - 2011 17 Comments READ FULL POST

Yesterday Mom picked me up and brought me to their house so I could babysit the three littlest ones while she went shopping. We had a lot of fun, and watched Finding Nemo (my first time). TK, the youngest girl (9), said this one face I made was “persuasive” and would make her do anything, and it was like I was “shooting curses” at her. (No idea how she got the “shooting curses” because it wasn’t a mean face!) LOL! […]

Posted by Phoenix On Feb - 26 - 2011 2 Comments READ FULL POST

Sometimes I’m depressed, but sometimes happiness is crawling through me so much that I feel like I’m high on it, that I can hardly keep from wiggling. I am SO GLAD to be with Scottie, to have a future full of hope, some great inlaws, and freedom from the fear of death. Right now, I’m on top of the world. I’m learning to laugh at people who criticize me for no reason (and you know, sometimes it IS pretty funny!). […]

Posted by Phoenix On Jan - 21 - 2011 2 Comments READ FULL POST
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