The Eighth and Final Square

with courage face the thing you fear so the pawn becomes the queen

Things I’ve Learned From My Male Begetter: Family comes first. No “best friend” can ever match the relationship you’ll have with your family. Family will always be there for you, even when friends come and go. (Except when you disagree with the family and they cut you off.) Fear is good. Fear of god, fear of consequences, fear of “authority figures”. (Fear is a very strong motivator. Fear keeps you trapped, tied to the person/people you believe will save you. […]

Posted by Phoenix On Jun - 21 - 2015 Add Comments READ FULL POST

Ari just turned three, in December. By the time I was three, my parents had three kids (me, 3, Ben, 1, and Joe, newborn). I can’t imagine having three children all Ari’s age or younger! I think about all the quality time I have with Ari, and it makes me so happy that I can do that. By the time Ruth was the age I am currently, they had seven kids (see the photo on the right). Today, Ari and […]

Posted by Phoenix On Jan - 3 - 2015 5 Comments READ FULL POST

Ever since I can remember, my parents gave me labels. “Bossy”, “independent”, “rebellious”, “stubborn”, “strong-willed”, etc. I was bossy for a while; probably because I was jealous that my parents treated Ben better than me. He seemed to be the favorite, and I wasn’t the only one who thought so, and even though I was older he got preferential treatment. Probably because he was the firstborn boy, too, and in Dennis’ intensely patriarchal view of everything, that counted for more. […]

Posted by Phoenix On Jul - 7 - 2014 2 Comments READ FULL POST

There are so many things I know now that I wish I knew when I was younger. A group I’m in wanted us to answer the question “What do you wish your 16-year-old self knew?”, and I’ve been thinking about writing a post along those lines anyway, so I just decided to do it now. What I Wish My Younger Self Knew I wish she knew everything wasn’t her fault. I wish she knew she didn’t have to be stuck […]

Posted by Phoenix On Oct - 15 - 2013 Add Comments READ FULL POST

My dad liked to tell a story, I have no clue if it’s true or not (knowing my dad, probably not; knowing dictators, probably) about Genghis Khan, that went something like this: One day, Genghis Khan said he would like to have pork for dinner. All his servants went out looking for pigs to slaughter, and there were none. Even though Genghis Khan had merely suggested he wanted pork for dinner, they all knew he would have their heads if […]

Posted by Phoenix On Sep - 20 - 2013 1 Comment READ FULL POST

Libby Anne is doing a series on HSLDA vs. CPS, so I figured I’d try and pound out a quick post from my experiences.  I’m not going to write very much about HSLDA, but I’ll link to Libby’s posts so you can go read more about them if you’re unfamiliar. Basically, HSLDA (Home School Legal Defense Association) has morphed into an organization that prevents abuse from being investigated. When we were kids, we heard the horror stories…the kids who were […]

Posted by Phoenix On Apr - 20 - 2013 10 Comments READ FULL POST

There’s a saying that’s been going around for a long time, “Be nice to your kids, they’ll choose your nursing home.”  I never realized until just now how absolutely true that is. For a very, very long time I believed I owed my parents everything. This probably was due a lot to the fact that they thought my whole existence was to please them. They would tell us on a regular basis that since they raised us, and mom put […]

Posted by Phoenix On Mar - 12 - 2013 1 Comment READ FULL POST

A friend of mine posted on her Facebook today that Megan and Grace Phelps-Roper (granddaughters of the infamous Fred Phelps) left the Westboro cult in November (and, of course, were shunned, as I was). I’m not sure of the exact date, but only that last Sunday was her first day in a different church. The news article brings back a lot of memories for me. After I read it, I started crying…I was in similar shoes, and it was really […]

Posted by Phoenix On Feb - 6 - 2013 5 Comments READ FULL POST
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