The Eighth and Final Square

with courage face the thing you fear so the pawn becomes the queen

Things I’ve Learned From My Male Begetter: Family comes first. No “best friend” can ever match the relationship you’ll have with your family. Family will always be there for you, even when friends come and go. (Except when you disagree with the family and they cut you off.) Fear is good. Fear of god, fear of consequences, fear of “authority figures”. (Fear is a very strong motivator. Fear keeps you trapped, tied to the person/people you believe will save you. […]

Posted by Phoenix On Jun - 21 - 2015 Add Comments READ FULL POST

“To Train Up a Child” — Promote this series Chapter 1 Part 1 Chapter 2 Chapter 3 *** This chapter is fairly short, and targets parental anger. I was actually surprised to see one instance of where the mother had to change her attitude towards her daughter, who was “a very good and obedient daughter”, but sullen and morose with her mother. But again, it appears the Pearls are trying to talk to all parents, and fall sadly short — […]

Posted by Phoenix On Oct - 19 - 2011 3 Comments READ FULL POST

“To Train Up a Child” — Promote this series Chapter 1 Part 1 Chapter 2 Chapter 3 *** “Behold, The Second Woe!” Chapter 2 is evidently where they get heavy into the “biblical” stuff…also, where Michael Pearl claims to have insights into the nature of children. He shares a story of a young mother in a meeting whose small son “kept defiantly throwing his bottle on the floor (assisted by her picking it up and handing it back to him) […]

Posted by Phoenix On Oct - 11 - 2011 11 Comments READ FULL POST

“To Train Up a Child” — Promote this series Chapter 1 Part 1 Chapter 2 Chapter 3 *** Never Too Young to Train The parents who put off training until the child is old enough to discuss issues or receive explanations find their child a terror long before he understands the meaning of the word. A newborn soon needs training. The child needs holding, loving and lots of attention, but the mother often has other duties. Really. Because a baby […]

Posted by Phoenix On Oct - 7 - 2011 12 Comments READ FULL POST

Chapter 1 turned out longer than I expected, so I’m splitting it into two parts. “To Train Up a Child” — Promote this series Chapter 1 Part 1 Chapter 2 Chapter 3 *** Switch Your Kids The book starts out fundamentally flawed, highlighting Michael Pearl’s love for the extremes by two stories featuring a family whose children are obviously out of control (I cringe saying that), contrasted with a woman who tells her children “Go out in the sun-room to […]

Posted by Phoenix On Oct - 6 - 2011 36 Comments READ FULL POST

I can’t stand by and watch this abuse be propagated without trying to do something about it. Children are dying, and countless others are being turned into mindless drones while under the influence of Michael and Debi Pearl. This is a topic that is also close to my heart, having grown up with Pearl-type methods (my parents did have a copy of this book, but it came out eight years after I was born and probably confirmed what they already […]

Posted by Phoenix On Oct - 2 - 2011 52 Comments READ FULL POST

I’ve been reading through the book “Why Does He Do That?” (it’s a little difficult translating it to an abusive father, rather than an abusive spouse, but some of the principles are the same), and I came across this passage that completely refutes Debi Pearl and anyone else who says women should do whatever men want. An abused woman tends to pour precious energy into supporting her abusive partner and massaging his ego, hoping against hope that if he is […]

Posted by Phoenix On Sep - 5 - 2011 18 Comments READ FULL POST

So recently, Debi Pearl (of Created To Be His Helpmeet, Preparing To Be His Helpmeet, and

Posted by Phoenix On Sep - 1 - 2011 34 Comments READ FULL POST
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