The Eighth and Final Square

with courage face the thing you fear so the pawn becomes the queen

Ari just turned three, in December. By the time I was three, my parents had three kids (me, 3, Ben, 1, and Joe, newborn). I can’t imagine having three children all Ari’s age or younger! I think about all the quality time I have with Ari, and it makes me so happy that I can do that. By the time Ruth was the age I am currently, they had seven kids (see the photo on the right). Today, Ari and […]

Posted by Phoenix On Jan - 3 - 2015 5 Comments READ FULL POST

No child chooses to be born. Why then do so many fundamentalist (emphasis on mental!) parents think their kids owe them? We were constantly reminded of how much we owed our parents. We owed them because they “put up” with us when we were young. We owed them because there were so many of us. We owed them because they fed and clothed us. We owed them because they paid for our music lessons. We owed them because we were […]

Posted by Phoenix On Nov - 20 - 2014 Add Comments READ FULL POST

There has been a lot of uproar in the survivors-of-abusive-homeschooling community over the post by Olivia Brodock titled “From A Homeschool Victim Who Obviously Survived“. There are many things to address, and I’m not going to do a dissection of that post, but I will mention a couple things. First off, the original post photo was one that was found on a post on the Homeschooler’s Anonymous website titled “When Homeschool Leaders Looked Away: The Old Schoolhouse Cover-Up“. The photo […]

Posted by Phoenix On Nov - 2 - 2014 6 Comments READ FULL POST

I started NaNoWriMo in 2006, if I remember correctly. I did it faithfully until 2010, and it was just too stressful…trying to write 50k words in 30 days. I haven’t done it since, because I was cutting out stressful things. But I’m thinking of doing it again this year, so here’s my obligatory “I’m Doing NaNoWriMo 2014!” post.

Posted by Phoenix On Oct - 30 - 2014 Add Comments READ FULL POST
My Baby Doll

Whoever said you can’t reason with toddlers is wrong. Dead wrong. If they’re right, Ari didn’t get the memo. When you have a relationship based on mutual trust and love, it’s really not all that difficult. We do it all the time, and have for months. Ari visited Grandma’s today, and someone they had with them is deathly allergic to peanuts. Ari had just had peanut butter, so Grandma wanted me to change her clothes. I had just put her […]

Posted by Phoenix On Oct - 15 - 2014 Add Comments READ FULL POST

I read this post and it really was powerful to me. Here I present The Shepherd’s Gospel, 1 Corinthians 13 by Shade. (Reprinted with permission.) [growing up, i heard about the shepherd and how he loved me so much. if i would only obey more, i would be safe. here is part of the shepherd’s gospel] 1. listen, i speak with the tongues of men and angels. i do not need love, you are the sounding brass, the tinkling cymbal. be […]

Posted by Phoenix On Sep - 25 - 2014 Add Comments READ FULL POST
What would YOU choose?

There are so many assholeish-towards-kids posts going viral. It’s really upsetting. There’s the guy that bought out all the McDonald’s pies because he was offended that a child was impatient (no, really? Children are impatient??). I really don’t care what the child was doing, nor what the mother was doing; the guy did an asshole thing and acted just as childish as the child…which really says a lot about HIS intelligence. Yet people are like “This guy is GREAT!” Why […]

Posted by Phoenix On Aug - 24 - 2014 2 Comments READ FULL POST
Robin Williams

I was shocked and saddened today when I found out about Robin Williams’ death by suicide from depression. My first thought is, “Everybody loved him! How could he do that?” (from years of believing mental illness was nonexistant) but as a fellow sufferer of clinical depression, I know that even if a million people told you they loved you, the black hole of depression could still swallow you up. Depression is a real thing. It’s not something you can just […]

Posted by Phoenix On Aug - 11 - 2014 Add Comments READ FULL POST
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