Who am I? I’m me, without apology. But who is “me”? What defines me? What do I want to be defined by?
I don’t like labels. Labels put you in a neat packaged box. I don’t want to be in boxes anymore. So what do I do? In my current About Me, I wrote:
The more I think about it, the more I think who you are is defined by what you believe: what you hold on to, what you make your foundation; what you stand on and say “This is where I begin”.
What if you believe things that you don’t want to define you? Or do they anyway? When I say I’m pro equal/same rights for men and women, regardless of gender and race, is that belief just part of the definition of me, or is it just something I hold as true? Or is it just the core beliefs that define me?
When I write a bio on Facebook or here on my blog, what do I put on it? Do I list everything I like and believe in, or is that too much?
People say they don’t want to be identified by their sexual orientation/preference…but isn’t that one of the things that helps define them? They would still be themselves if they didn’t have the same preferences/orientation, just a different version. So then CAN anybody be truly defined, because no matter what they believe and think and feel, that’s who they are?I would still be ME if I hadn’t gone through abuse, I would just be a different me.
But my ultimate question is, say I’m an introvert (which I am), I like cats (which I do), and I hate stewed tomatoes (which I do). Those things all make up me…but do they define who I am…my entire existence? Can you ever really figure out “who you are”…are we all made up of separate little things that together makes up US? Is that part of the point of friendship, to keep discovering who each other is?